Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Life lessons learned...again

I admit it - I am a slow learner.

Late spring I decided to try once again to enter the wonderful world of dating. It has been quite a ride. And the ride is over. I've decided to put on paper (well, blog) some of the things I learned this time around, as a reminder to myself before the next time (if I ever let there be a next time)!!!!

  • If he seems too good to be true, he most likely is.
  • When he asks for money, run far and fast; regardless of the fact that you have none to give him still have a teenager at home.
  • When he is too hot, sweet, and sexy to still be single, he's proabaly not.
  • When he tells you that you are more beautiful than you know you can possibly be, don't believe him, as bad as you want to.
  • When he tell you he does not care, he really does not care.
  • When your best friends hint that he is not good for you, pay attention. They were right the last time.
  • Poetry, roses, and romantic messages are nice sentiments. But you still need spans of time together and physical contact.
  • When he constantly tells you he is too busy to spend time with you, he probably is. Understand where you are on his priority list, deal with it, and move on. It is not going to change because you want it to.
  • Keep the 'just friends' status for as long as you can, because once you pass that, it is not so easy to get it back, no matter what you tell yourself or how bad you want to.
  • He is who he is and you are who you are. If he does not want to do something for you, he will not be happy doing it. If you need it, it is time to look elsewhere. Remember, you fell for him because of who he was, not who you want him to be.
  • As soon as there is any hint of a guilt trip coming your way, back off fast, before your darkest side emerges...before the fighter in you puts the gloves on....before the Wicked Witch of the Willo flies in on her broom....ooops, too late. We'll just blame that on remnants of a catholic school upbringing...yeah.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Ok sister, are you talking about YOU or ME? I can definitely relate. I can certainly attest that dating in your 40's is quite different than what we've experienced in our past. At least that's true for me. Guys aren't necessarily hard to meet, but WHO are these people? Some who pursue and persuade until they finally have their attention -- only to, like you said, be too good to be true. Ok, sorry for the rant. Just want you to know you are not alone.